Friday, September 30, 2011
I saw this Quote posted recently, and it got me thinking (typical) and prompted a reply that has been building up for some time now, having seen many similar posted previously ...
FORGIVENESS AND FORGETTING
"I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one." (Henry Ward Beecher)
Noble words, but rather shallow in meaning, in my opinion … The Fact IS
Despite the Heart being able to let go of the binds of hurt, often the injury leaves scars that although forgiven, cannot be hidden, only to serve as constant reminders ... and there is not much we can do about this other than to accept the reality of the experience and celebrtate victoriously having emerged, or allow ourselves to be diminished by it entirely.
Consider the Tree
Much like a tree that has been deprived of water for a period will regain normal growing and eventually bear fruit, the stunted height and rings will always bear testament to the time it thirsted ... that is in obeyance of natural law.
Does the stunted growth and humbled size make the shade less enjoyable, or the fruit less sweet? No, not in any way at all.
Is it the tree’s fault it was made to suffer thirst? Of course not, nor should we abide in guilt or shame for the reality having been hurt ourselves.
FORGIVENESS frees us from the shackles of suffering and gives purpose to that pain which in Life would otherwise confound and belittle us.
FORGETFULLNESS comes from being able to be focused on the goodness that is borne of such hurt, of the growth that comes after preoccupation with the pains.
Wisdom allows things to be seen clearer, and helps make sense of things seen in the past.
(That is, of course, only those who lift their eyes from themselves unto greater, better things.)