Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Some of you wanted to know how I baked my : Baked Fried Chicken, check out the pictures below.
|Spices that I used|
|Three chicken legs|
|All the spices|
|Rolled the chicken in the spices|
|Rolled the chicken in flour and the spices|
|I rolled the chicken in some olive oil after I floured it. I greased the aluminum foil in Olive oil also and covered a cookie sheet. (I hate washing dishes, easy clean up).|
|Set Oven to 350 and let cook for 1 hour|
If you have any questions, please let me know..
Saturday, October 8, 2011
October Giveaway: Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov
Contest Ends October 31st. Winner will be announced on November 1st.
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I'm the Anti-Socialite for the month of October. This month I started on my budget and my short term goals. This has given me a chance to take a deeper look at myself, spending habits and what I really want out of life. It's given me the opportunity to enjoy my house and do some thing around it, like clean the attic. Also being able to say "No" and not feel guilty about it. One of the biggest things I am working on is "commitment". If I can stay committed to this no spending for the month of October I know that I can commit to others things that I want to do. Not being able to go anywhere or buy myself anything is going to be a challenge, but I'm all for it to make me a better person.
Do you have problems with staying committed to things?
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Yeah I'm talkin to you by: katbalu
I came across this YouTube video yesterday and it almost had me in tears. The things that she said touched me so much because I know she is talking to me. I have always been a giver in my relationships, whether it is with family, friends or my companion. I am to the point in my life that I can't give anymore. I need to focus on me.I'm making a change, I'm walking away and not looking back.. I need PEACE of mind.
True Statement: Pain is a motivator
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
"Inspired by royalty, I created this silky drink to celebrate the beautiful, independent and sophisticated women of today. It is a truly elegant experience for the modern day queen and her court of friends." -Pharrell Williams
Okay, I know that I have given up my "going out card" for the month of October, but I didn't know that Pharrell launched his own liqueur called "Qream". I called two local ABC stores to see if they carried it and they don't.. I'm a little disappointed, because I really wanted to try it. There are two flavors; peach and strawberry. I love the way the bottle looks, it shows royalty with a hint of sleek and class. I hope they get it in by the end of the month. Check out the website, they have different types of recipes to make with it.
Have you tried it, if so how was it???
There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but HAPPY.
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Information taken from: http://www.downstate.edu/eap/october.html
AN ACT OF DOMESTIC ABUSE OCCURS EVERY 12 SECONDS IN THE U.S.
According to former Attorney General Janet Reno, “Too many American women live in fear of the very people upon whom they depend for love and affection. Instead of providing refuge, the walls of many homes serve as prison bars.”
WHAT IS DOMESTIC ABUSE?
Domestic abuse, or “battering”, is a pattern of abuse by one partner against the other, for the purpose of maintaining power and control. Domestic abuse often includes (but NOT ALWAYS) physical abuse. Forms of domestic abuse can include:
|—||threats and intimidation|
|—||isolation or restriction from friends, family and other support systems|
|—||destruction of property|
|—||jealousy and possessiveness|
|—||stalking or monitoring of behavior|
Physical battering: The abuser’s attacks or aggressive behavior can range from bruising to murder. It often begins with what is excused as trivial contacts which escalate into more frequent and serious attacks (this can include the abuse of household pets).
Sexual abuse: Physical attack by the abuser is often accompanied by, or culminates in, sexual abuse where the woman is forced to have sexual intercourse with her abuser, or to engage in unwanted sexual activity.
Psychological battering: The abuser’s psychological or mental abuse can include constant verbal abuse, harassment, excessive possessiveness, fault-finding, isolating the woman from friends and family, deprivation of physical and economic resources, and destruction of personal property.
BATTERING ESCALATES. It often begins with behaviors like threats, name calling, abuse in your presence (such as punching a fist through a wall) and/or damage to objects or pets. It may escalate to restraining, pushing, kicking, slapping, pinching, tripping, biting, throwing, or grabbing. Finally, it may become life-threatening with serious behaviors such as choking, breaking bones, or the use of deadly weapons. (Remember, ANY household item can be used as a dangerous weapon!)
SOME FACTS ABOUT DOMESTIC ABUSE
|Adult domestic violence is one of the most serious public health and criminal justice issues facing women today. Most victims of domestic violence are women. Between 91-95% of all documented domestic violence cases are women being abused by male partners. About 1-2% is physical abuse of men by their female partners, and 3-8% of the total number of reported domestic violence cases involve same-sex relationship abuse. |
|Every woman is at risk for becoming a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence has no regard for socio-economic status, race, ethnicity, religion, employment status, physical ableness, age, education, marital status, or sexual orientation. In fact, being FEMALE is the only significant risk factor for being a victim of domestic violence. |
|Batterers use emotional, psychological, economic and physical abuse as ways of controlling their victims. Abuse is NOT caused by stress, anger, or alcohol or other drug involvement. Many people find it difficult to understand why people batter their partners. This may be why, when we hear excuses like, “he had a bad day”, “she lost her temper”, or “he was drunk and out of control”, we often accept them as viable reasons why the attack occurred. But battering has more to do with the batterer’s attitudes, beliefs, and relationships to others than it has to do with these common excuses. Many men believe that they have the right to control their spouses, and to enforce their will on those around them, particularly females. Many men believe that it is the man’s duty to control his wife, regardless of the methods used. Some men even believe that women “need” to be “disciplined”. These beliefs and attitudes, coupled with society’s tolerance of domestic violence, makes it one of the most difficult problems for our society to overcome. |
|Children in families where there is domestic violence suffer negative consequences even if they are not the targets of the abuse. Children who witness their mothers being abused by their fathers (or vice versa) often exhibit health problems, sleeping difficulties, acting-out behaviors, and feelings of guilt, anger, fear and powerlessness. In addition, research suggests that boys who witness their mothers being abused often grow up to be abusers themselves, thereby continuing the cycle of domestic violence. |
|Even though the vast majority of victims of domestic violence are women, males are becoming increasingly the victims of domestic violence. The California Department of Justice states that the arrest rates for female perpetrators of domestic violence doubled between the years 1991 and 1996.1 |
|The U.S. Department of Justice indicates that women are twice as likely to be murdered by their domestic partners as men. |
|Research indicates that women who are assaulted by their male partners are 9 times more likely to tell the police or other persons than men who are assaulted by their wives.|
|1 D.L. Fontes, Psy.D., Employee Assistance Report, “The Hidden Side of Spousal Abuse”, April 1999 |
SOME MYTHS ABOUT DOMESTIC ABUSE
|MYTH: When someone is battered, he/she must have done something to deserve it. |
FACT: Battering is never the victim’s fault. NEVER. Batterers abuse their partners as a way to control them. Domestic violence is about control, not about punishment or discipline.
|MYTH: Battering usually ends after a couple gets married or has children. |
FACT: Battering usually gets WORSE over time, not better. Getting married and/or having children does not protect someone from becoming a victim. In fact, sometimes it makes the situation worse.
|MYTH: Alcohol and other drug use may cause battering. |
FACT: Most people who use alcohol or other drugs do not abuse their partners. And many people who never use alcohol or other drugs do abuse their partners. While it is true that perpetrators of domestic violence are sometimes under the influence of alcohol or other drugs when the episode occurs, battering and alcohol or other drug abuse are 2 separate problems – neither is caused by the other. Anyone who abuses another person while under the influence of alcohol or another drug needs help for BOTH problems.
|MYTH: If a woman wants to end the violence, she should just leave. If she doesn’t leave, it is because she either likes the abuse, or she doesn’t want to leave. |
FACT: Women may stay in abusive relationships due to fear, lack of resources or options, psychological damage, loss of self-esteem, depression, or other reasons. It is important to remember that LEAVING the relationship may also be dangerous – more women are killed by their partners AFTER they leave the relationship than at any other time. Women who stay in abusive relationships are not weak or stupid – they are SCARED.
BARRIERS TO LEAVING A VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP
Some reasons why women stay generally fall into three categories:
Lack of resources
|—||most women have at least one dependent child|
|—||many women are not employed outside of the home|
|—||many women have no property that is solely theirs|
|—||some women lack access to cash or bank accounts|
|—||women who leave fear being charged with desertion and losing their children or joint assets|
|—||a woman may face a decline in living standards for herself and her children|
|—||clergy and secular counselors are often trained to see only the goal of “saving” the marriage at all costs, rather than the goal of stopping the abuse|
|—||police officers often do not provide support to women; they sometimes treat domestic violence as a domestic “dispute” rather than a crime|
|—||police may try to discourage the abusee from pressing charges|
|—||prosecutors often are reluctant to prosecute cases, and judges rarely levy the maximum sentence upon convicted abusers|
|—||despite a restraining order, there is little to prevent a released abuser from returning and repeating the assault|
|—||despite increased public awareness of the problem of domestic violence, and the increase in available shelters, there are still not enough shelters to accommodate women and children and keep them safe from abusive persons|
Traditional beliefs and values
|—||many women do not believe divorce is a viable alternative|
|—||many women believe that a single parent family is unacceptable and that even a violent father is better than no father at all|
|—||many women are socialized to believe that they are responsible for making heir marriage work; failure to maintain the marriage equals failure as a woman|
|—||many women become isolated from friends and family, either because of the possessiveness of the abuser, or because they want to hide their bruises and injuries from the outside world; this isolation contributes to the feeling that there is nowhere to turn|
|—||many women rationalize their abuser’s behavior by blaming alcohol or other drugs, anger, stress, unemployment, or other factors|
|—||many women are taught that their identity and worth come from getting and keeping a man|
|—||the abuser RARELY abuses all the time; during the non-violent periods he or she may fulfill all the needs of the partner and be a wonderful spouse; the victim believes that the abuser is basically a “good” person, and that she should hold onto a good man |
SOME PREDICTORS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE
The following signs often occur before actual physical abuse, and may serve as clues to a potential abuser:
|Did he or she grow up in an abusive family? People who grow up in families where they have been abused as children, or where one parent beats the other, have grown up learning that violence is normal behavior. |
|Does he or she tend to use force to “solve” problems? A young man who has a criminal record for violence, who gets into fights, or who likes to act tough is likely to behave the same way towards his wife and children. |
|Does he or she have a “quick temper”? Does he tend to overreact to life’s little problems and frustrations? Does he punch walls or throw things when he’s upset? Any of these behaviors may be a sign of a person who will work out bad feelings with violence. |
|Does he or she abuse alcohol or other drugs? There is a strong link between violence and problems with drugs – especially alcohol. Be alert to this possibility, particularly if he/she refuses to get help. But remember, violence is never CAUSED by alcohol or other drug use. They are 2 separate problems. If a person has a problem with alcohol or other drugs, he or she needs help with that problem. If they are ALSO abusive when under the influence, they need help with that problem AS WELL. Treating one will not necessarily stop the other. |
|Is he or she jealous of your other relationships? |
|Does he have strong traditional ideas about what a “man” should be and what a “woman” should be? Does he think a woman should stay at home, take care of her husband and children, and follow his wishes and orders? |
|Does he or she keep tabs on you, needing to know where you are at all times? |
|Does he have access to guns, knives or other lethal instruments? Does he talk of using them against other people, or threaten to use them to “get even”? |
|Does he expect you to follow his advice at all times? Does he become angry if you do not fulfill all his wishes? |
|Does he or she go through extreme highs and lows, almost as though they are 2 different people? Is he or she extremely kind one time, then extremely cruel another time? |
|When he/she gets angry, are you afraid? Do you find that not making him or her angry has become a major part of your life? Do you do what he/she wants you to do, just to keep the peace? |
|Does he/she ever physically force you to do something you do not want to do, or something he/she wants you to do?|
Saturday, October 1, 2011
October is Breast Cancer Awareness month or Breast Health Awareness. The campaign serves to bring a national focus on the risks of breast cancer by raising awareness and talking about screening and treatment. We see pink ribbons and awareness campaigns in the strangest of places today. NFL football is taking this on as are some NASCAR racers and women’s groups across the country.
About the CircleAlthough breast cancer continues to impact people from all backgrounds, there are significant differences within the mortality rates among racial groups. During the early 1980s, breast cancer death rates for white and African American women were about equal, but during 2001-2005 African American women had a 37 percent higher death rate.
The Susan G. Komen for the Cure® Circle of Promise has pledged to do our part to ensure that African American women are empowered with the information and tools they need to take charge of their own health and serve as ambassadors in their local communities. The Circle of Promise movement is designed to engage African American women to help end breast cancer forever by fostering increased awareness, support, empowerment and action.
Whether you’re on the itty-bitty committee, spilling out of your D-cup, or somewhere in between, it’s important to be able to distinguish fact from fiction when it comes to breast cancer myths. Thousands of black women die unnecessarily from breast cancer each year because they are uninformed. Just because your momma didn’t have breast cancer, that doesn’t mean you won’t. Or does it? Certain deodorants don’t really increase your chances of getting breast cancer. Or do they? Put your knowledge to the test by taking this short breast cancer quiz. What you don’t know, can hurt you.
For more information, please visit: Susan G. Komen for the Cure